There is an old story about a child who tries to move a heavy rock while his father is watching. The child works and works, but is just not strong enough. Finally he says to his father, “I can’t. It’s impossible.’
His father replies: ‘Of course you can. You haven’t used all the power you have at your disposal yet. ‘ The little boy replies that he has done his best and still can’t, to which the father replies, “You haven’t asked me to help you yet.”
Sometimes dieting is like moving that heavy rock. You struggle and fight, exercise and sweat, but it’s so hard to stick to a diet and exercise schedule that you give up. There will come a time to recognize that asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Enlisting the help of friends, family, and a good weight loss support group can strengthen your efforts and help you overcome setbacks that threaten to derail your weight loss efforts. Rather than trying to go it alone, try some of these suggestions to help you stay on track with the help of friends and family.
Contact an exercise buddy. By dating and making a commitment to support someone else’s efforts, you can stick with yours too. Do you think you don’t know anyone you can train with? You may be surprised. Several years ago, with an online friend, I felt sorry for another failed weight-loss attempt when she suggested a new idea. We all got cell phones with the same calling plan, and every afternoon at 2am we ‘met’ for a walk. She took her for a walk in Seattle and I did mine in Boston – but by keeping each other company, we helped each other lose 25 pounds each and forge a friendship that will last a lifetime.
Put your family on the right page. Husbands, children, siblings can provide support in unexpected ways. Something as simple as a heartfelt compliment at the right time can be all you need to get you started. Likewise, refuse to let them sabotage your dieting efforts. If you recognize it, point it out, but keep in mind that they probably don’t consider it ‘sabotage’. For example, if your husband usually brings you a bowl of ice cream when he gets one for himself, he probably thinks he is expressing his love. Let him know that you appreciate it, but would rather have a kiss than an ice cream anytime.
Join a weight loss group such as Weight Watchers. There is a lot to be said if you seek the support of others who are fighting the same struggle as you. Whatever it is that motivates you, you can find it in a weight loss support group. Healthy competition, companionship, encouragement, applause, and practical, common sense advice from others who are also fighting to shed pounds can make diet reforms much easier.